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Post by kate on May 13, 2008 19:23:22 GMT 10
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Post by flossyinoz on May 14, 2008 11:06:59 GMT 10
What exactly are her special needs? At the beginning of the thread you said she was meeting all milestones now. Is this still the case? If so, waht is the problem then?
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Post by doris on May 14, 2008 12:31:27 GMT 10
Hi Kate i am really curious at what they mean by special needs. Because my husband and i have put down that we would accept a child with special needs and the age we gave was between birth and 3 years of age. we have been approved and on the register for over 12 months. we constantly get told that there are no children.
it is very strange indeed. i have a meeting with my case worker next week (a different and hopefully better one). it will be very interesting to see what she says.
Doris
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Post by flossyinoz on May 14, 2008 14:02:46 GMT 10
Kate, Wouldn't that be great if a match could be made by ways of this forum!
Doris, Just wondering what your agency said or will say about the past 12 months. Did they say there were just no kids, did they say your profile did not meet the kids available or did they say your profile was pulled but someone else got ahead of you - just would like to get to the bottom of the general trend.
Flossyinoz
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Post by doris on May 14, 2008 15:36:34 GMT 10
Flossy
they told us that there were no matches. but i have to say we were not that 100% happy with our case workers. hopefully with this new one things might be a bit different. she seems really nice. we first said that we did not want to know if we were one of the lucky three couples that were picked, but we found that harder because we heard nothing and felt like we were fogotten. but now we have changed it so we are notified that we are one of a batch that have been selected.
i find that in someway they dont tell us the whole truth. but i will see what our new case worker has to say. we see her next week so it will be interesting.
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Post by flossyinoz on May 14, 2008 16:15:32 GMT 10
Good luck with the new caseworker Doris. So far ours seem to be quite okay, of course no idea how this will look longterm and if they stay, one has just started there, so she should at least be around for a while We will also opt for not being informed if we are one of the 3 couples and not get chosen, but I want to keep in contact with our caseworkers every 2-3 months, have a little chat or even only an email and hear what has been going on, if we have been considered. But I don't want to get all reved up and excited and then nothing, would be the rollersoaster of emotions like IVF again, had enough of that. I think even though they say that they have to go through all the files on their register for the closest match, in doubt every caseworker will go for their own people first and if your agency did not have many cases in the last year, then less chances for you. But it sounds like the new social worker seems a lot more proactive.
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Post by doris on May 14, 2008 16:51:46 GMT 10
Flossy
thanks
yes it seems like she is a bit more on the ball, and she actually takes the time to give me a call every now and then and is not condersending when i talk to her on the phone. it just seemed like the other case workers were just there but not doing much. i have to say my husband was ready to quit a few times last year, just because of they they talked to us, like we were children. but now i feel alot different and alot happier.
fingers are crossed bigtime.
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