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Post by kate on May 16, 2007 19:37:05 GMT 10
Hi
It has been good to find a forum on adoption for aussies!
Has anybody considered local special needs adoption, or ever had the option given to you by the social workers?
Thanks,
Kate
PS. I posted this as part of another thread, and Kim suggested that i give it a thread all of its own.
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Post by flossyinoz on May 17, 2007 11:55:50 GMT 10
Hi again Kate,
So I will reply to your email from the other thread in this new one.
Do you know if Anglicare/Centacare or whoever is involved have actively tried to match her with potential parents. As far as I know the process works first without the potential parents, a panel decides who they think should get the baby/child and then the potential parents are informed, of course they can say no. But I cannot imagine that anybody says no to a baby which meets all milestones - the whole process seems a bit odd to me.
What do the social workers say? What have they done? Is there some sort of bureaucratic delay?
Flossyinoz
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Post by kate on May 17, 2007 14:55:49 GMT 10
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Post by flossyinoz on May 17, 2007 16:04:56 GMT 10
Kate,
This leaves me gobsmacked - the social workers tell us a totally differnt story of how it works and that there are no kids available at least in pc, some actually at the moment in adoption. But it is no good for us now as we have a long road to get approved ahead of us.
Can just hope that they soon find somebody for the little one. Everybody wants babies I thought!!!
One question, maybe I am ignorant waht does bc baby mean?
Flossyinoz
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Post by kate on May 17, 2007 18:10:56 GMT 10
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Post by jojo on May 17, 2007 22:21:02 GMT 10
hello kate welcome to adoption thats is sad that there is no family for the little girl what is her name iam sorry what dose bc mean i can'nt see it i would adoped her with open arms xxxx jojo
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Post by Kim on May 18, 2007 17:46:16 GMT 10
Hi Kate, Firstly thanks for starting this in its own topic as I really felt it was something that needed talking about in its own right I am sorry to hear about this little girl not being able to find a family. I would put my hand up for her in a shot if given the option, but it will be about another 6 to 9 months before we are through the process and able to be looked at as possible parents. We did just finish our education group and were told there that during the process the socail worker will talk to us (the same as with every couple) about what we are willing to accept in regards to issues with the child. So prospective parents are asked before they are even approved if they would accpet children that might possibly be classed as special needs, such as premature babies, difficult births, drug / alcohol effected babies, deaf babies, blind babies, babies with asthma, babies who come from parents with mental or physical issues themselves, mixed race babies and so on. So I guess prospective parents for this little girl would have to have said that they were ok with the birth trauma that this little girl went through, as prospective parents wouldnt even be considered otherwise. My husband and I dont have any problems with babies who are classed as special needs like that as I actually have a nephew who is autistic and I had a cousin with severe cerebal palsy, unfortunately she past away in 2004 aged 25. So major special needs like that we know we wouldnt be able to handle but special needs like your neices we would be happy to be asked. I cant understand why the one couple would say no to her because she cried? That seems really silly to me. I know I expect a lot of crying to be happening when I meet our baby and not all of it will be coming from the baby As for waiting times I know of one couple who had been waiting since approval for at least 12 months and I know of once couple who's baby was 18 months old when they met the baby for the first time, so it seems that at times both couples and babies have to be in the system for a very long time. But I do also think that there maybe some couples who feel that they could not accept any type of special needs or issue, so maybe the number of couples willing to is much smaller than the number of babies available. As for the lists the social worker was talking about she may have meant the regional lists, as each region in victoria has its own list so there are 9 lists. So there is the Western Region, Northern Region, Southern Region, Eastern Region, Gippsland Region, Barwon-South Western Region, Hume Region, Grampians Region, Loddon Mallee Region.
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Post by chinababe on May 19, 2007 18:46:03 GMT 10
Kate maybe it's got more to do with the false start of meeting the first set adoptive parets and them backing out that the department want to place her with the VERY best family for her and not vise-versa! To me I would say there is more to the story than the info your receiving. I hope that you can learn more about the situation and that she find a wonderful family to be hers. My thoughts and respect are also very much with your SIL
Also not everyone does ICA because of the lack of children available locally, there is a variety of reasons why some of us go overseas. For us particularly because of DH's age I felt it unlikely that a relinquishing parent would consider us. I also think once you start the process with your country of choice you actually become quite attached to it.
I view every overseas adoption as having some special rights (needs) issues, so it's definitely not that we are looking for the prefect child, if we where doing that then we would stick with LA over ICA.
We might even be looking at a SN's placement from china the second time around or a PC placement from australia. Which I feel each PC placement has the potential to have more SN's than any other family creation path we might undertake.
Jac
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Post by kate on May 23, 2007 7:54:54 GMT 10
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Post by flossyinoz on May 12, 2008 12:19:38 GMT 10
Hi Kate, I hope that by now after the hickups of last year your little niece has been placed with the best parents she can possibly get!!! Cheers
Flossyinoz
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Post by kate on May 12, 2008 14:52:37 GMT 10
no, but thanks for caring enough to check up.
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Post by sallyg on May 12, 2008 15:23:12 GMT 10
Oh Kate that's terrible. Is she still with the same foster family?
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Post by kate on May 12, 2008 20:57:46 GMT 10
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Post by flossyinoz on May 13, 2008 10:09:07 GMT 10
Maybe the foster family can keep her permanently, long term foster kids are sometimes transferred into permanent placements. Fingers crossed!
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Post by kate on May 13, 2008 11:56:53 GMT 10
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Post by sallyg on May 13, 2008 14:09:12 GMT 10
That's great that she's with a great foster family, but just awful that she's going to have to move at some time.
Is there any explanation to them not finding her a perm family?
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