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Post by cluckylollie on Feb 6, 2011 17:07:57 GMT 10
At the information session for PC the SW said that you need to be "emotionally strong". I know I don't fit that description. I'm a crier. I cry when I'm happy, sad, tired, angry, excited, nervous, you name it. I even cried a little at the session when she was talking about some of the forever families. Is our application doomed because of this?
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Post by waiting on Feb 6, 2011 18:18:20 GMT 10
No, don't be so silly... it is fine to cry whenever you want!! But what is important lollie, is that you are able to pick yourself up after you have you cry and carry on, I think, anyway. It's fine. No need for doom and gloom. Cheer up....
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Post by lilchookie on Feb 6, 2011 18:37:32 GMT 10
Of course not. You need to be 100% yourself to get through this process, if you try to be something your not, it just doesn't work.
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Post by doris on Feb 6, 2011 19:29:26 GMT 10
I like you cry at the drop of a hat even at TV commercials. I cried at one of the sessions and boy did i cry at the meetings with our SW. I was a mess at the individual meeting i think i cried 90%of the meeting. So no there is nothing to be worried about and what waiting said, they want to see emotion in you as well as to see how you pick yourself up after it.
So dont worry it's all good.
Doris
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Post by chinababe on Feb 7, 2011 5:42:32 GMT 10
Emotion is fine, what SW's like to see is how you resolve 'challenges' and how resilient you are. Just like the girls say they like to see that you can pick yourself up again.
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Post by goggly on Feb 7, 2011 7:35:45 GMT 10
First off, I don't think your application is doomed in any way, however, I do think that if you are overly emotional all the way through your meetings (i.e. uncontrollable crying) it will have an impact on your assessment as there may be questions about whether you have worked through your "issues" around TTC.
It really depends on the SW you get. I know a couple who were knocked back at pre-assessment because the SW didn't think that the wife had worked through the issues with IVF. When they appealed one of the reasons they got was the uncontrolled crying throughout the first interview. They left it six months and applied again and got through the second time.
However, I know my SW would be completely cool with it because she understands it is an emotion process. It is all about how well you are able to pick yourself up again, and please note everyone, I said uncontrollable crying not the kind we all have when going through this process!
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Post by cluckylollie on Feb 7, 2011 10:06:43 GMT 10
Thankyou so much ladies. You really are such a lovely group. We're going to start talking to family about adopting today so I'm sure there will be excited tears lol. It is a very emotional process. The SW did smile at me when I had a tear at the information session. It's going to be a long process and hopefully they'll see that even though we've been through a lot, we've come out the other end stronger as a couple. Thanks again
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