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Post by beachdreams on Jan 22, 2011 20:11:36 GMT 10
Hi all. I'm 29 and DH is 31. I'm a community worker and DH is in marketing. Having bio children is not an option due to required medication, and we are not interested in pursuing IVF (just not for us). We have been foster carers in the past and due to my employment I am anticipating the assessment will be protracted and difficult!
Have our adoption training coming up in February.Extremely excited and very nervous.
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Post by waiting on Jan 22, 2011 21:03:44 GMT 10
Welcome beachdreams. I understand you may be nervous, but don't be. It is definitely an exciting prospect, but no need to be nervous. I hope the training goes well for you. I found it quite interesting.... Waiting.
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Kay
Toddler
Mama through local adoption :)
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Post by Kay on Jan 23, 2011 12:49:55 GMT 10
Welcome to the board beachdreams,
If you have an questions at all let us know.... I am still in the middle of it all at the moment so it can take a while but there is a lot of info on here and you can ask us anything.
Cheers,
Kay
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Post by cluckylollie on Jan 23, 2011 13:15:54 GMT 10
Hi there. We're just starting the process too. I'm worried about the job situation also. My DH works nights which I know isn't ideal(three night a week). Looking forward to going through it all together.
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Post by goggly on Jan 23, 2011 15:17:16 GMT 10
Hi clucky,
Job situation should not be a problem - you can spin it to the SW that it will give him more contact during the day. Good luck. After deciding to adopt I think it was the most at peace I was during the whole ttc/miscarriage nightmare.
The only other area I can see which you will probably get a lot of questions (we did) is why no IVF? For us it was a simple waste of time considering our problem (can get pregnant easily, can't stay pregnant) but both our SW were fixated on why medical science didn't have a cure for this!
My SW told me later it was because they had no one before us that hadn't at least tried IVF and considering our ages, which were the same as yours, they couldn't believe it wasn't something that we would be interested in.
As you think of them, ask a heap of questions. The process is so confusing and lots of times you feel like you are all alone. remember, you're not! Welcome to the world of adoption, it will be a lovely and surprising ride.
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Post by beachdreams on Jan 24, 2011 8:23:36 GMT 10
Hi there We are in the same boat - not interested in IVF whatsoever. LOTS of family / friends don't seem to understand this.
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Kay
Toddler
Mama through local adoption :)
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Post by Kay on Jan 24, 2011 9:48:08 GMT 10
BD,
If i'd know 10 years ago about the heartache involved I dont think I would have been either.
Kay
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Post by waiting on Jan 24, 2011 16:19:26 GMT 10
You spend years and years and thousands and thousands of money on IVF and on other treatments to receive nothing back and then you have wasted all the years waiting when you could have spent that on the list waiting for a baby and not started the process when you were 42 years old! If only we could have had the hindsight.......
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Post by lilchookie on Jan 24, 2011 16:36:49 GMT 10
Welcome beachdreams!
We only did 2 years of IVF, just not for us. We were always very comfortable with adoption, so we saw no point putting ourselves through anymore heartache. Now 2 years after that, plenty of paperwork, assessments & waiting I am sitting here at my kitchen table watching my husband play on the floor with our 7 month old daughter, it is just the best!
You have come to the right place for information.
Good Luck with your training, it is actually really enjoyable.
: )
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Post by cluckylollie on Jan 28, 2011 20:11:59 GMT 10
Thanks for the tips ladies. Is it weird that I'm looking forward to filling in forms?!
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Post by goggly on Jan 28, 2011 20:16:01 GMT 10
Nah, I love forms too! It will be the "how did you feel about that?" for the 400th time that gets you!
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Post by shudie on Feb 15, 2011 17:28:33 GMT 10
welcome beachdreams,
ivf was hell for me. we did 13 unsuccessful cycles, spent over $20, 000 and 3 years of depression. it took me over a year to feel any sense of normality again. i'm training to be a social worker and did a placement at a feminist organisation - after doing alot of reading - ivf actually seems abusive to women to me and now i see why i had so much resistance to it at the time. (IMO).
x shudie
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