Kay
Toddler
Mama through local adoption :)
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Post by Kay on Jan 7, 2011 10:04:03 GMT 10
Hi everyone. During my interview yesterday my SW asked me "How would you feel if one person on the panel wanted to not approve or defer you, how would you feel and what would you do? After that she said that she was no way intimating that it was what she thought would happen, but I wondered if it was a question which was commonly asked. Thanks K
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Post by doris on Jan 7, 2011 12:45:46 GMT 10
Hi Kay
We were asked the same question. The funny thing is we didn't question why because during the interviews it was clear that they wanted to see how we would react or handle rejection if we were not approved or deferred. I did feel though through all the interviews that our SW's were trying there hardest to break my husband on a particular issues so that's when they threw that question into the mix. But we felt we answered that question very well.
So i guess they do ask that question a lot.
Doris
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Post by waiting on Jan 7, 2011 14:42:48 GMT 10
Kay, they always ask the weirdest questions and I think DOris is right. They are trying to find a way to see if there is reactions. Whatever they ask, the best thing is to react in the way you normally behaviour. IF you are concerned about the status of the question, say so. Let them know the type of person you are. Remember it is all about getting to know you. You worry too much. DOn't.
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Kay
Toddler
Mama through local adoption :)
Posts: 230
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Post by Kay on Jan 7, 2011 19:47:50 GMT 10
Thanks girls, I told her that I would be incredibly upset but intent on finding out the reason and if/how we could express to the panel the second time around how much we want to adopt. I also then said I would think it would be worse than our m/c After that she went on to talk a little more about the process and gave us an indication to when we may go to panel so it got a little more positive but I was floored by the question and it made me think it was not going as well as i thought.. Thanks for allieviating the stress... K
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Post by goggly on Jan 7, 2011 21:18:13 GMT 10
It is a bit of an odd question. We got nothing like that either time and I think it is a bit rude actually.
Why ask how you are going to react to something that may never happen? Sound about right, a heap of hypotheticals about what may or may not happen!
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