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Post by kate on Nov 26, 2007 22:00:15 GMT 10
Hi
What books on adoption / bonding with the older child have you read? Any recommendations?
Cheers,
Kate
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Post by kate on Dec 18, 2007 11:47:11 GMT 10
doesn't anybody read books anymore?
where do you get information?
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Post by Kim on Dec 18, 2007 12:09:51 GMT 10
Hi Kate,
I'm really sorry, with all the meeting and appeal stuff I didnt even see this post.
I have a number of Adoption Books, the only problem is that most of the adoption books out there are from the American point of view.
I have actually started writing my own book about my adoption experience, but I hope to include views and stories from other people who are willing to write some bits for my book and I'm happy for them to not use their real names. Although those people I've contacted about writing something my book, havent been interested.
I tink when it comes to Adoption people are still scared to put themselves out there or to share their experiences, even if their names are not used.
Anyway the books I have include...
Making Sense of Adoption - by Lois Rushkai Melina
Raising Adopted Children - by Lois Rushkai Melina
Understanding Adoption - by Rosie Snow
The Open Adoption Experience - by Lois Rushkai Melina & Sharon Kaplan Roszia
Family Bonds, Adoption & the Politics of Parenting - by Elizabeth Bartholet
Welcome Home - by Lita Linzer Schwartz, PhD & Florence W, Kaslow, PhD
An Educators guide to Adoption - by Celebrate Adoption, Inc.
Kate, do you have any adoption books that you have read?
~Kim~
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Post by checkingboxes on Jan 1, 2008 19:40:33 GMT 10
Oh, where to start! My favourite Aussie books (mostly relevant to transnational/transcultural adoption) are:
The Colour of Difference: Journeys in Transracial Adoption (2001) - Sarah Armstrong and Petrina Slaytor
Adopting Parents' Stories (2007) - edited by Jane Turner-Goldsmith
Adopting Overseas (2007) - Lucy Burns and Ailsa Burns
Jesse's World (2005) - Basia Bonkowski
Other non-Aussie books that are good:
Adoption Parenting (2006) - edited by Jean MacLeod and Sheena Macrae
Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew (1999) - Sherrie Eldridge
Adopting the Hurt Child (1995) - Keck and Kupecky
Nobody's Child (2005) - Kate Adie [this one is more about abandonment / foundlings than adoption, but still an amazing read]
I have a heap of books specifically related to adoption from China, if anyone wants titles let me know!
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Post by sallyg on May 21, 2008 13:57:29 GMT 10
Great list China, Is there one titled something like the wounded child or the wounded soul or something??? Can't remember, but recal someone with an AC saying it described him completely... Adopting the Hurt Child - was that one worthwhile? Thanks! Sal
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Post by shudie on May 23, 2008 17:26:36 GMT 10
Can anyone recommend any books about adoption?
I'm particularly interested in attachment and other disorders that are common to adopted children.Sally, I think you were asking the above? If you are looking for attachment theory - the majority of it is based on John Bowly and others like Winnicott and Mahler. They are psychology books though, not specific to adoption. The books are hard going so perhaps try and find articles written about these people's theories on the net. Type in 'Attachment Theory'. Bowlby is definitely the most common as far as the 'types' of behaviours displayed during attachment and separation. He writes specifically about attachment, loss and separation and in quite simple to understand stages. psychology.about.com/od/loveandattraction/a/attachment01.htmWinnicot talks about the 'good enough mother' and how we need to always mirror and affirm the child's sense of self Mahler talks of the 'psychological birth of the infant', the stages of attachment and separation that the child will go through General parenting books coming from a psychological perspective should also cover developmental stages of the child - this would give an idea about what the ideal is and might be easier reading. xx Shudie
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Post by flossyinoz on Jun 2, 2008 13:13:11 GMT 10
We went to a really interesting lecture on Friday by Louise Porter, child psychologist and we were both very impressed by her charisma and underlying philosophy of child education. Here is a link to her book which we bought, have not read it yet, but if it is only half ans inspiring as her talk then it is great. www.capersbookstore.com.au/scripts/shop_item.asp?by=a2z&item=2509We liked the concept of setting boundaries by using a guided approach to parenting, teaching instead of rewards and punishment, acknowledging instead of praising a child. The reality is probably not as easy as in the book or her talk, but you got to start somewhere .
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Post by sallyg on Jun 2, 2008 14:15:38 GMT 10
Thanks Shudie, That's really interesting. I think you're right that articles are a good way to go too. That site's great. I've bookmarked it for future research ;-). Floss, that sounds like a fantastic presentation. Let me know how you go with the book. The book I meant (initial post) was Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted child. www.amazon.com/gp/reader/0963648004/ref=sib_dp_pt#reader-linkI've now read a thesis by the author about it - and it looks amazing. So will definitely buy the book. I've read so many adoptive parents say that it described their child's behaviour so well, and helped them understand what was going on when nothing else made sense. Nearly finished the Colour of Difference which is an interesting and honest account from adult adoptees growing up in Australia as a child of colour in (mostly) white families. The racism some experienced makes you cringe. Got a pile of other books from the library - they had a better selection than I would have anticipated! Sal x
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Post by shudie on Jul 18, 2008 7:52:38 GMT 10
attachment.adoption.com/bonding/trauma-links.htmlI was just on a thai/aussie group and these guys were recommended for anxiety and trauma. Was in relation to ICA but I imagine fits in with any child that has suffered abuse before they come to us and suffers with anxiety and trauma. Bessel van der Kolk or Bruce Perry. xx Shudie
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Post by shudie on Jul 18, 2008 12:47:59 GMT 10
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Post by flossyinoz on Jul 21, 2008 15:55:35 GMT 10
Hi shudie, I just read through the a4everfamily website. Very interesting, I wish I had read this before my interviews.
Flossyinoz
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Post by sallyg on Jul 28, 2008 9:21:22 GMT 10
I just went on it too... really interesting, and a great resource.
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Post by mel on Jul 28, 2008 22:06:13 GMT 10
I love the books on attachment by Dan Hughes and when he came to Australia I went to some of his training sessions and really learnt so much!
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