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Post by waiting on Dec 28, 2010 7:30:53 GMT 10
Recently in the last few months I have had the opportunity to do some more baby sitting of different aged children. It has been interesting. My niece was only just recently born and my cousin in law was nice enough to ask me for help. I actually took my mum with me as I have not looked after a 4 week old baby ever on my own. I must admit the 2nd time she was 6 weeks old and I was surprised at myself that I felt a lot more confident even though I still brought mum with me.
Yesterday I looked after my 4 year old nephew with my husband for the whole day as his brother and wife went into the city for shopping and it was really quite fun. Apart from a little sulking at the end, he was a joy to be around. I can't get enough of the wonderful hugs and kisses from a small child....
I did get a little sad though. I kept watching my husband with his nephew and saw how good he was with him and how patient and felt a little sad that he will never have his own children to play with like that. Has anyone felt like that? I also have the same feeling when I watched my mother playing with my niece. She will never have grandchildren. This is when I start to feel guilty because I am the cause of this. I was the one who had the health issues. Am I the only one to feel so guilty about this, or do others get this too?
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Kay
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Post by Kay on Dec 28, 2010 15:42:22 GMT 10
Waiting,
You are not the only one I can assure you of that. my DH is excellent with the nephews and nieces... Usually their first question is where's T? Can I speak to T? Over the last 2 years I have also seen him work in a professional setting (he is a teacher) and I am constantly amazed. Yes it maked me sad and sometimes guilty but in one way or another I know he will have an impact on any child we may be placed with.
Troy not to feel guilty though, I am sure it is not how he'd want you to feel
Cheers,
L
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Post by doris on Dec 29, 2010 10:28:08 GMT 10
Hi Waiting
your not alone there. I like you was the one that could not get pregnant. Watching my husband with my nieces and nephews was making me so sad, because he is an only child as well, because i knew he would make a fabulous father and as it turned out he is a fabulous father.
I say not to give up and the dream will come true....
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