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Post by sweets on Mar 5, 2009 22:47:29 GMT 10
Hi every1
my name is tanya i am 24 yrs old. i have had 5 miscarriages have endometiosis i really want to have a baby but with my luck doesn't seem to happen i don't want to do ivf i might end up with 8 kids lol. so i am looking into adopting like pricing etc. I also have graves diseases which is an over active thyriod gland. My partner is 35 yrs old he already has a 13 yr old son and with my health problems i blame me for not being able to give him more kids. Been together 4 yrs not married. having these minor health problem would i have any luck adopting.
TANYA
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Post by flossyinoz on Mar 6, 2009 14:23:15 GMT 10
Hi Tanya, First of all welcome to the forum. I guess your questions cannot be answered without more information. It very much depends on the state you live in and if you want to adopt locally or intercountry. In any case I would google the information page of your state department which deals with adoptions, eg DHS in Victoria or DOCS in NSW. Just put in "adoption" and your "state" and go for an Australian google search and you can start from there. Regarding your health problems, they sound minor to me. Part of an adoption application is a general health check where they would establish if they see your Graves desease as a problem, but as it is quite common and manageable I doubt it. Also of course feel free to browse through our forum especially the "sticky topics" where members have explained pre requisites and general information for certain programs. You are very young (sorry if this sounds patronising, but I could be your mother age wise ) and I know from experience how heartwrenching miscarriages can be, but has the reason for the miscarriages ever been established by a specialist? It is as good sign that you are getting pregnant even with endometriosis. It could for example be a blood clotting problem which could be fixed by taking bloodthinners like warfarin or clexane or it could have something to do with your thyroid problem or another immune issue in which case the doctors would maybe also know how to help you eg by taking cortisone to support the pregnancy. IVF would not make any sense as your problem is obviously not getting pregnant but staying pregnant. I would explore all this before I would look into adoption in your case. Fertility Centers do not only do IVF, but also explore other options and may be able to help you. You mention you would like to give your partner another child, is he behind this 100%? And blaming yourself for not being able to gice him another child is also a motivation which would be questioned. An application for adoption takes a lot of paperwork, lots of waiting (years) and months of intense questioning by social workers about each person, backgound, partnership, common goals, parenting skills etc. It is not exactly the easy way out. And social workers would definitely question your commitment at your age. Cheers Flossyinoz
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